Splitopia
  • About Wendy Wendy's Blog Splitopia: the Book Seven Principles of Parting
  • Coping & Thriving House & Home
  • Parenting You & Your Ex Blending Families Friends, Relatives & Community
  • Making It Legal Money
  • Dating & Sex Getting It Right Next Time
  • Dear Splitopian . . . Helpful Books Videos
  • Search
Splitopia
  • Wendy Paris/
    • About Wendy
    • Wendy's Blog
    • Splitopia: the Book
    • Seven Principles of Parting
  • Wellness/
    • Coping & Thriving
    • House & Home
  • Family & Friends/
    • Parenting
    • You & Your Ex
    • Blending Families
    • Friends, Relatives & Community
  • Law & Money/
    • Making It Legal
    • Money
  • Dating & Sex/
    • Dating & Sex
    • Getting It Right Next Time
  • Resources/
    • Dear Splitopian . . .
    • Helpful Books
    • Videos
  • Search/
Splitopia

Happily Ever, After Divorce

Main

Splitopia
  • Wendy Paris/
    • About Wendy
    • Wendy's Blog
    • Splitopia: the Book
    • Seven Principles of Parting
  • Wellness/
    • Coping & Thriving
    • House & Home
  • Family & Friends/
    • Parenting
    • You & Your Ex
    • Blending Families
    • Friends, Relatives & Community
  • Law & Money/
    • Making It Legal
    • Money
  • Dating & Sex/
    • Dating & Sex
    • Getting It Right Next Time
  • Resources/
    • Dear Splitopian . . .
    • Helpful Books
    • Videos
  • Search/
October 05, 2016

Laughter in the Face of It: Splitopia Improv Show

October 05, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Laughter in the Face of It: Splitopia Improv Show

Why I decided to do an improv comedy show about divorce. 

Read More
October 05, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Wendy's Blog, Coping & Thriving, Friends Relatives Commu
creativity, Front Page Middle
September 28, 2016

Why a Hollywood Ending Matters in This Divorce

September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Why a Hollywood Ending Matters in This Divorce

How Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie divorce affects them, their kids—and those of us who look toward celebs for inspiration.  Let's hope it's a good divorce. 

Read More
September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Legal Advice, Wendy's Blog, You & Your Ex, Parenting
Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie, celebrity divorce, media, collaborative divorce, adversarial law, Front Page Middle
August 25, 2016

Compassion in Divorce and Greater Good Science Center

August 25, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Compassion in Divorce and Greater Good Science Center

Learn how to "rebuild" yourself after divorce.

Read More
August 25, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Wendy's Blog
Greater Good Science Center
July 27, 2016

Reading for Pleasure and Profit

July 27, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Reading for Pleasure and Profit

In divorce, many of us once again turn to books to get through. Join my conversation about books with Jeffrey Davis. 

Read More
July 27, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Wendy's Blog
June 24, 2016

The Good Divorce, Canadian-Style

June 24, 2016/ Wendy Paris
The Good Divorce, Canadian-Style

I was happy to see this great article today in Canada's largest-circulation national paper, The Globe and Mail, about divorce, up north. 

Read More
June 24, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Wendy's Blog
June 17, 2016

Mindfulness in Divorce, and in New York City

June 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Mindfulness in Divorce, and in New York City

How reading The Untethered Soul gave me a new appreciation of the subway, and my life. 

Read More
June 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Wendy's Blog
April 29, 2016

Divorce in Houston: Journalist Makes Copy from Chaos

April 29, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Divorce in Houston: Journalist Makes Copy from Chaos

Kathryn Peterson is the "Carrie Bradshaw of the South," blogging about divorce for the Houston Chronicle's "Grey Matters" column. 

Read More
April 29, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Coping & Thriving, Wendy's Blog
split happens, houston, kathryn peterson
April 04, 2016

"Excellent Ex-Husband" Is Not an Oxymoron

April 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris
"Excellent Ex-Husband" Is Not an Oxymoron

Being an ex-husband is an important job, and one with such a low bar, it's easy to excel. 

Read More
April 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog
March 30, 2016

Reconnecting with My Past Helps Me Value the Present

March 30, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Reconnecting with My Past Helps Me Value the Present

Reconnecting with places and people from our past can help us remember who we are, and how far we've come.

Read More
March 30, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Friends Relatives Commu, Wendy's Blog
March 17, 2016

Is Marriage Old-Fashioned? Obsolete?

March 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Is Marriage Old-Fashioned? Obsolete?

I'm a big fan of marriage, but during my book tour this past Spring, this question came up:  Do we actually need it anymore? 

Read More
March 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Friends Relatives Commu, Wendy's Blog, Dating & Sex
marriage, obsolete, idea of marriage, spitopia, book tour
March 02, 2016

Gretchen Rubin Writes about Splitopia

March 02, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Gretchen Rubin Writes about Splitopia

I was excited to talk to the fabulous happiness guru Gretchen Rubin about Splitopia for her site. 

Read More
March 02, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Coping & Thriving, Wendy's Blog
gretchen rubio, splitopia, happiness
January 26, 2016

Getting Along Better After Divorce, Despite Differences

January 26, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Getting Along Better After Divorce, Despite Differences

While adversarial divorce positions marriage and divorce as opposites, collaborative law can make friends of near-enemies. 

Read More
January 26, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog, Legal Advice
functional relationship, getting along, post divorce relationship
January 14, 2016

Why I Wrote a Book About the Good Divorce

January 14, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Why I Wrote a Book About the Good Divorce

When my husband and I announced our decision to split, I was surprised by the negative forecasts of some of my friends. I set out to find the truth. 

Read More
January 14, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Wendy's Blog
January 07, 2016

My 20 Percent Husband

January 07, 2016/ Wendy Paris
My 20 Percent Husband

Psychology Today magazine runs my essay on why a decent divorce is far more realistic than an all-out war.  

Read More
January 07, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog
November 26, 2015

Christmas with My Former In-Laws, Again?

November 26, 2015/ Wendy Paris
Christmas with My Former In-Laws, Again?

PERSONAL ESSAY: "It isn’t as if you can create your good divorce (or hammer through your bad one), brush off your hands, and consider your work done, particularly if your have children."  

Read More
November 26, 2015/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog
November 19, 2015

3 Steps Toward Peace, In Divorce or Marriage

November 19, 2015/ Wendy Paris
3 Steps Toward Peace, In Divorce or Marriage

From decreasing negative rumination to learning the right lessons from the past, we can continue to improve our relationship with a former spouse, or new one.  

Read More
November 19, 2015/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog, Dating & Sex
get along with your ex
October 08, 2015

Does Divorce = Failure? (Is Failure a Bad Thing?)

October 08, 2015/ Wendy Paris
Does Divorce = Failure? (Is Failure a Bad Thing?)

Q&A: Author and journalist Carlin Flora on the upsides of falling short. Hint: you learn empathy, humility, maturity.

Read More
October 08, 2015/ Wendy Paris/
Wendy's Blog, Coping & Thriving
September 22, 2015

How Married People Should Talk About Divorce

September 22, 2015/ Wendy Paris
How Married People Should Talk About Divorce

Focus on your commitment as parents and love for your children. 

Read More
September 22, 2015/ Wendy Paris/
Friends Relatives Commu, Wendy's Blog, Parenting
August 06, 2015

Is Tinder a Good Matchmaker?

August 06, 2015/ Wendy Paris
Is Tinder a Good Matchmaker?

Even if you don't find your soul mate, you may find a friend.

Read More
August 06, 2015/ Wendy Paris/
Dating & Sex, Wendy's Blog
finding a match, friends, online dating
July 30, 2015

A Successful Blended Family Takes Effort, Honesty

July 30, 2015/ Wendy Paris
A Successful Blended Family Takes Effort, Honesty

Q&A: Start by having realistic expectations, particularly if you have children, says Anne Brennan Malec, a Chicago-based clinical psychologist and relationships author.

Read More
July 30, 2015/ Wendy Paris/
Blending Families, Wendy's Blog, Your New Relationship
blended families, step siblings, stepparents, getting along
  • Previous
  • Next

EXPLORE MORE

Featured
Self-Serving Post on Dating Younger Men
Self-Serving Post on Dating Younger Men

Uplifting article in The Telegraph about the "trend" of older women and younger men. 

Read more →
people-2557411_1280.jpg
How to Be More Attractive

While most of us are drawn to looks, attraction is far more complex than it may appear at first sight. The experts, and real people, weigh in.   

Read more →
3 Tips for Being a Super Stepfather
3 Tips for Being a Super Stepfather

Splitopia.com contributors Naomi Cahn and Amy Ziettlow share their research and insights on how to form a great relationship with stepchildren. 

Read more →
Should I Stay or Should I Go? 11 Questions to Ask
Should I Stay or Should I Go? 11 Questions to Ask

A recent article in the New York Times poses the question: What should you ask when the love has ended? 

Read more →
VIDEO: Principle of Parting #2: Take Ownership (of Your Future and Past)
VIDEO: Principle of Parting #2: Take Ownership (of Your Future and Past)

Taking ownership means embracing your power to create your own future. 

Read more →
Should You Throw a Divorce Party?
Should You Throw a Divorce Party?

We have ceremonies and rituals to honor nearly all of life's passages. Increasingly, this includes divorce. 

Read more →
  • Wendy Paris/
    • About Wendy
    • Wendy's Blog
    • Splitopia: the Book
    • Seven Principles of Parting
  • Wellness/
    • Coping & Thriving
    • House & Home
  • Family & Friends/
    • Parenting
    • You & Your Ex
    • Blending Families
    • Friends, Relatives & Community
  • Law & Money/
    • Making It Legal
    • Money
  • Dating & Sex/
    • Dating & Sex
    • Getting It Right Next Time
  • Resources/
    • Dear Splitopian . . .
    • Helpful Books
    • Videos
  • Search/

Splitopia

Editor's Picks

Featured
Great Reads: Our Top Picks
Great Reads: Our Top Picks

Check out our top picks for help with self-compassion, hope, parenting in divorce and more. 

Read more →
Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance
Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance

Violinist and historical musicology doctoral student Meagan Mason always loved music, but had never really danced to it—until she and her husband of eight years split up about a year ago.

Read more →
Splitopian Profile: "It Was Part of My Past, and Will Be in My Future"

Writer Linda Zukauskas realized she could divorce her dance partner, and still keep dancing. 

Read more →
Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting
Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting

Coldplay lead singer Chris Martin, a.k.a. Gwyneth's ex, talks about how reading Victor Frankl helped him get through divorce.  

Read more →
Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day
Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day

Divorce is an interactive relationship, meaning your actions can improve the attitude and actions of your former spouse. Here's how. 

Read more →
IMG_1479.JPG
Good Divorce Weekend: The No-Spending Spree

Not shopping, from Black Friday deals through Cyber Monday specials, made this holiday weekend special for my family. 

Read more →
Financial Stress Led This Divorced Mom to Hire a Money Coach, Then Become One

Struggling to make ends meet? Money therapy may be the answer.  How to know when it's time to seek help.

Read more →
Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?
Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?

Is there anything wrong with sex with an ex? It seems innocuous. Not to mention fun. But it's rarely without emotional downsides. 

Read more →
Facing a Tough Transition? Create Positive Moments
Facing a Tough Transition? Create Positive Moments

Creating more moments of joy can reawaken parts of yourself or your heritage that may have faded in marriage. 

Read more →
Revisiting Vicki Lansky's "Divorce Book for Parents"
Revisiting Vicki Lansky's "Divorce Book for Parents"

Vicky Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents offers a children's Bill of Rights, including the right not be used as a pawn between parents. The author, who was 75, died this week. 

Read more →

Get Inspiration to Split Right and Move On!

Thank you!

About        Contact       Manifesto       Media