You can end a bad relationship and have a great life.

If you’re divorcing, splitting up, or co-parenting, we can help you do it well.  We have the information and support you need to get through this tough transition and build a life that is in line with your ideals and aspirations and supports your family in whatever arrangement that family may take.  

We know you can do this because we've done it ourselves, and met so many others who are loving their post-marriage lives. 

Splitopia is the nation's first "divorce wellness" website.  It started as a way to share the research in journalist Wendy Paris's new book, Splitopia: Dispatches from Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well (Simon & Schuster/Atria Books, 2016). Along the way, it grew into something more.  Essays, articles and insights from writers and "Splitopians" around the world.  A virtual and live community. (Check out the Splitopia Improv Show on Los Angeles's West side.)  Soon we'll be rolling out courses, coaching and in-person and virtual support to help you create a "good divorce," co-parent peacefully, and make sure your next relationship benefits from all that you've learned and continue to learn. 

We're here to help you to create a cooperative, collaborative divorce, protect your children and improve your life on the other side, though the latest research, real-life stories, and direct actions you can take. draws on the work of amazingly innovative legal and mental health professionals and organizations, family law reformers, child psychologists, researchers in the field of positive psychology and post-traumatic growth, and new companies and thought leaders offering help for all aspects of surviving and loving modern family life. 

Marriage can be hard. Getting out of a bad one, even harder.  But we can take charge of our lives and create the new reality we seek.

Wendy Paris, Founder

Wendy Paris wrote Splitopia: Dispatches from Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well while going through her own divorce, and reflecting on her parents' divorce and other divorces in her own family.  Before writing Splitopia, she worked for 25 years as journalist, covering relationships, weddings and marriage, psychology, culture, health, fitness and travel. She's written for The New York Times, Psychology Today, The New York Observer, The Guardian, the Washington Post, Marketplace Radio, Travel & Leisure,,, SelfJewish Week and other outlets.

She founded as a way to further share the research in her book, to show how changes in law and customs over the past 40 years have greatly improved divorce for many people, and to empower those facing the end of their marriage to use the new tools and resources available to get through with compassion, cooperation and love. Read more about Wendy here


David Callahan, Business Development & Strategy

David Callahan is the founder of Inside Philanthropy, a digital media site covering the world of charitable giving.  He is the author of eight books, including the forthcoming The Givers (Knopf, April 2017).  He was the co-founder of Demos, a national public policy organization based in New York City.  He is serving as the technical and business advisor during the start-up phase of  He is also the former husband of Wendy Paris, and an active, collaborative co-parent of their son.

Naomi Cahn, Legal Content Advisor

Naomi Cahn is the Harold H. Greene Professor of Law at The George Washington University Law School. She is the co-author, along with law professor June Carbone, of Marriage Markets: How Inequality Is Remaking the American Family (Oxford University Press, 2014) and Red Families v. Blue Families: Legal Polarization and the Creation of Culture (Oxford University Press, 2010) as well as the leading family law textbook Contemporary Family Law. Her work has been featured in the New York Times, the Washington Post, the Christian Science Monitor, and the New Yorker


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