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New Divorce Apps Ease Cooperation
Wendy Paris
New Divorce Apps Ease Cooperation
Wendy Paris

Tech lets you get informed, find professionals, log child support and track details—leading to calm and a sense of control.

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Wendy Paris
Alimony for Life: Am I Stuck Supporting Him Forever?
Splitopia Staff
Alimony for Life: Am I Stuck Supporting Him Forever?
Splitopia Staff

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: Alimony or "spousal support," as it's often called today, can go for life, though increasingly it's for a specific period of time. 

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Wendy Paris
Seeking Freeedom? Principle of Parting #3: Don’t Confuse Filing with Closure
Wendy Paris

Rushing to make it legal can actually slow down your divorce and make closure harder. 

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Wendy Paris
Wendy Paris
How Good Divorce Lawyers Have Improved Divorce
Wendy Paris

We've all heard about "shark" lawyers circulating failing marriages, but some of the best innovations in cooperative divorce and co-parenting come from divorce professionals. 

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Wendy Paris
One Question, Three Lawyers: How to Find a Good Mediator
Splitopia Staff
One Question, Three Lawyers: How to Find a Good Mediator
Splitopia Staff

Dear Splitopia: I want to mediate, but how do I know if a mediator is any good? 

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Splitopia Staff
Same-Sex Divorce Can Still Be a Legal Maze
Wendy Paris
Same-Sex Divorce Can Still Be a Legal Maze
Wendy Paris

Q&A: Divorce equality is an important right.  Attorney Michele Zavos explains the benefits of legal divorce. 

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Wendy Paris
Susan Orlins
Mediation Magic: Creative Ways to Reach Agreement
Susan Orlins

"When major disagreements arise, I ask the parties to take turns sitting in the chairs of each child and responding as if they were that child." Lawyer and mediator Don Greenstein on creative ways to help couples agree. 

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Susan Orlins
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Must We Follow State Child Support Guidelines? We Like Our Plan!
Splitopia Staff

While most states let you opt out of state-mandated formulas, you still need a fair agreement for everyone's happiness. (1 Question, 3 Lawyers)

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Splitopia Staff
How Do I Avoid Spending My Savings on Divorce Lawyers?
Splitopia Staff
How Do I Avoid Spending My Savings on Divorce Lawyers?
Splitopia Staff

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWERS: There are many ways to reduce the legal cost of divorce. Here seven good ones. 

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Read These (Easy) Rules for Successful Step-Parenting
Wendy Paris
Read These (Easy) Rules for Successful Step-Parenting
Wendy Paris

A stepparent is not a legal relationship, meaning the connection is what really matters. 

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Wendy Paris
Katherine Miller
I Was a Typical Divorce Lawyer, Until I Got Divorced
Katherine Miller

LAWYERS SPEAK OUT: "I can’t state this strongly enough: the adversarial, traditional legal process can destroy families, and lives."

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Katherine Miller
Divorce Settlement 101: Interest-Based Negotiation
Wendy Paris
Divorce Settlement 101: Interest-Based Negotiation
Wendy Paris

Q&A: Austin-based collaborative lawyer Janice Green on the critical difference between interests and positions.

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Wendy Paris
Protect Those You Love in Divorce, and Remarriage
Naomi Cahn
Protect Those You Love in Divorce, and Remarriage
Naomi Cahn

Want to leave your house to your ex?  Let your new spouse make medical decisions for your kids when you're out of town?  Make sure your legal documents are in order. 

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Naomi Cahn
Why a Hollywood Ending Matters in This Divorce
Wendy Paris
Why a Hollywood Ending Matters in This Divorce
Wendy Paris

How Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie divorce affects them, their kids—and those of us who look toward celebs for inspiration.  Let's hope it's a good divorce. 

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Wendy Paris
Flexibility, and 3 Other Key Skills for Collaborative Success
Regina A. DeMeo & Mary Atwater
Flexibility, and 3 Other Key Skills for Collaborative Success
Regina A. DeMeo & Mary Atwater

Cooperating with your ex can save hundreds of thousands in legal fees, and reduce heartache.  How to get along, even when angry.  

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Regina A. DeMeo & Mary Atwater
Should I Use My Neighbor's Lawyer?
Splitopia Staff
Should I Use My Neighbor's Lawyer?
Splitopia Staff

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: A divorce can go poorly for a variety of reasons. Interview a few lawyers and see who feels right for you.

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Splitopia Staff
Are Divorce Laws the Same for Gay Couples?
Splitopia Staff
Are Divorce Laws the Same for Gay Couples?
Splitopia Staff

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: Many LGBT couples clip together other laws to cover details of a relationship begun before marriage was legal.

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Suing to Relocate: How and Why to Avoid It
Laura Brienza
Suing to Relocate: How and Why to Avoid It
Laura Brienza

Why suing to move away with your children can mean no one wins. Scenes from a good divorce gone bad in Grey's Anatomy. 

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Laura Brienza
Divorce Mediation Plants Seeds for Family Success
Wendy Paris
Divorce Mediation Plants Seeds for Family Success
Wendy Paris

Q&A:  Colorado attorney/mediator Beth Henson details on the process and perks of mediation over adversarial litigation. Info you need!

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Wendy Paris
Before You Remarry, Consider a Prenup
Regina A. DeMeo
Before You Remarry, Consider a Prenup
Regina A. DeMeo

Far from a vote of no-confidence, a prenup shows an educated awareness of the importance of clarity. 

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Regina A. DeMeo
One of Us Wants Mediation, the Other Seeks War
Splitopia Staff
One of Us Wants Mediation, the Other Seeks War
Splitopia Staff

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: Mediation is like doing the tango; you can't quite do it alone. Steps to help a resistant spouse be willing to get along. 

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Splitopia Staff
Do I Need a Lawyer AND a Mediator?
Splitopia Staff
Do I Need a Lawyer AND a Mediator?
Splitopia Staff

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: If your mediator is not a lawyer, hiring one can bring extra confidence—and flag potential problems. 

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Why Do My friends Think I Need a Shark Lawyer?
Splitopia Staff
Why Do My friends Think I Need a Shark Lawyer?
Splitopia Staff

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: Taking an adversarial, blood-letting approach can bring unnecessary expense and heartache. 

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Splitopia Staff
Can I Get Free Legal Advice?
Splitopia Staff
Can I Get Free Legal Advice?
Splitopia Staff

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: Many lawyers will provide general advice on the phone for free. Here's how to ask. 

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Splitopia Staff
Getting Along Better After Divorce, Despite Differences
Wendy Paris
Getting Along Better After Divorce, Despite Differences
Wendy Paris

While adversarial divorce positions marriage and divorce as opposites, collaborative law can make friends of near-enemies. 

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Wendy Paris
For Happy Kids, Keep Your Divorce Out of Court
Wendy Paris
For Happy Kids, Keep Your Divorce Out of Court
Wendy Paris

Why you do not want a judge to make parenting decisions for you—and how to avoid a court battle over custody.

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Wendy Paris
The D-I-Y Divorce
Wendy Paris
The D-I-Y Divorce
Wendy Paris

Why we chose to use a storefront divorce "store" to make our split legal. 

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Wendy Paris
Destination Divorce: The Tropical Mediation Vacation
Wendy Paris
Destination Divorce: The Tropical Mediation Vacation
Wendy Paris

Should you go for a tropical mediation vacation? The founder of DivorceHotel says, "Yes!" Here's why.

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Wendy Paris
2 Team Approaches That Can Save You Thousands
Wendy Paris
2 Team Approaches That Can Save You Thousands
Wendy Paris

Mediation and collaborative divorce are two of the most important innovations in family law—and can save you money and heartache.

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Wendy Paris
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Editor's Picks

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Great Reads: Our Top Picks
Great Reads: Our Top Picks

Check out our top picks for help with self-compassion, hope, parenting in divorce and more. 

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Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance
Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance

Violinist and historical musicology doctoral student Meagan Mason always loved music, but had never really danced to it—until she and her husband of eight years split up about a year ago.

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Splitopian Profile: "It Was Part of My Past, and Will Be in My Future"

Writer Linda Zukauskas realized she could divorce her dance partner, and still keep dancing. 

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Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting
Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting

Coldplay lead singer Chris Martin, a.k.a. Gwyneth's ex, talks about how reading Victor Frankl helped him get through divorce.  

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Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day
Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day

Divorce is an interactive relationship, meaning your actions can improve the attitude and actions of your former spouse. Here's how. 

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Good Divorce Weekend: The No-Spending Spree

Not shopping, from Black Friday deals through Cyber Monday specials, made this holiday weekend special for my family. 

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Financial Stress Led This Divorced Mom to Hire a Money Coach, Then Become One

Struggling to make ends meet? Money therapy may be the answer.  How to know when it's time to seek help.

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Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?
Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?

Is there anything wrong with sex with an ex? It seems innocuous. Not to mention fun. But it's rarely without emotional downsides. 

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Facing a Tough Transition? Create Positive Moments
Facing a Tough Transition? Create Positive Moments

Creating more moments of joy can reawaken parts of yourself or your heritage that may have faded in marriage. 

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Revisiting Vicki Lansky's "Divorce Book for Parents"
Revisiting Vicki Lansky's "Divorce Book for Parents"

Vicky Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents offers a children's Bill of Rights, including the right not be used as a pawn between parents. The author, who was 75, died this week. 

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