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September 22, 2016

The Secret To Divorce Success: Retool Your Resilience

September 22, 2016/ Wendy Paris
The Secret To Divorce Success: Retool Your Resilience

Q&A: "Resilient people make conscious choices every day for practices that energize, enliven or strengthen." Maria Sirois on powerful habits.

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September 22, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Coping & Thriving
divorce success, resilience, Q&A
August 05, 2016

The Art of Coping with Loss In the Real World

August 05, 2016/ Maria Sirois
The Art of Coping with Loss In the Real World

BOOK EXCERPT: "We must uncover within us an aptitude for the art of losing." Clinical psychologist Maria Sirois shows how in A Short Course in Happiness After Loss.

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August 05, 2016/ Maria Sirois/
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August 05, 2016

Dazed and Confused? Hormone Imbalance Can Increase Stress

August 05, 2016/ Alysia Patterson Mueller
Dazed and Confused?  Hormone Imbalance Can Increase Stress

Q&A: Even in a decent divorce, stress is unavoidable. Hormones can have a huge impact on whether we feel like “ourselves,” says Dr. Susan Sklar.

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August 04, 2016

Yes, You Can Develop a Spiritual Life (And Why You Might Want To)

August 04, 2016/ Nadia Colburn
Yes, You Can Develop a Spiritual Life (And Why You Might Want To)

A spiritual practice can remind you that you are part of a greater whole—a comforting awareness to bring to divorce.

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August 04, 2016

Divorce Recovery 101: The Do-Nothing Approach to Coping

August 04, 2016/ Nadia Colburn
Divorce Recovery 101: The Do-Nothing Approach to Coping

We often feel overwhelmed by urgent-seeming actions we must take in divorce. Sometimes the best route to recovery is to sit still. 

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August 04, 2016

Living With Loneliness (and Liking It?)

August 04, 2016/ David Kruchowski
Living With Loneliness (and Liking It?)

How one man fought back loneliness after divorce, and learned to appreciate (or at least tolerate) being alone. 

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August 04, 2016

The Secret Super Power: Wonder

August 04, 2016/ Jeffrey Davis
The Secret Super Power: Wonder

PERSONAL ESSAY: "You know that feeling when everything you were building burns down?" How wonder helped one man recuperate. 

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August 04, 2016

A Letter to My Daughter on the Eve of Her Divorce

August 04, 2016/ CJ Schepers
A Letter to My Daughter on the Eve of Her Divorce

PERSONAL ESSAY: “'You’ll end up like your mother,' was one of the harshest critiques of your divorce.  That’s why I’m writing this letter." 

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August 04, 2016

My Friends All Have Opinions About My Divorce: 5 Helpful Ones

August 04, 2016/ Susan Orlins
My Friends All Have Opinions About My Divorce: 5 Helpful Ones

An inveterate advice-seeker shares the best input she received during her divorce and after.

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July 20, 2016

Writing Your Way Through Divorce

July 20, 2016/ Nadia Colburn
Writing Your Way Through Divorce

You don't have to be a great poet to use expressive writing to help you move through divorce. It's a tool to help all of us face what we're feeling.

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June 06, 2016

Divorce Overwhelm? There's a Play in That!

June 06, 2016/ Wendy Paris

How one New Jersey-based actor, educator and mother wrote a one-woman play to help her laugh at—and learn from—her marriage's end. 

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April 29, 2016

Divorce in Houston: Journalist Makes Copy from Chaos

April 29, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Divorce in Houston: Journalist Makes Copy from Chaos

Kathryn Peterson is the "Carrie Bradshaw of the South," blogging about divorce for the Houston Chronicle's "Grey Matters" column. 

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April 29, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
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March 02, 2016

Gretchen Rubin Writes about Splitopia

March 02, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Gretchen Rubin Writes about Splitopia

I was excited to talk to the fabulous happiness guru Gretchen Rubin about Splitopia for her site. 

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March 02, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
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October 08, 2015

Does Divorce = Failure? (Is Failure a Bad Thing?)

October 08, 2015/ Wendy Paris
Does Divorce = Failure? (Is Failure a Bad Thing?)

Q&A: Author and journalist Carlin Flora on the upsides of falling short. Hint: you learn empathy, humility, maturity.

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September 03, 2015

How to Bounce Back from Anything

September 03, 2015/ Wendy Paris
How to Bounce Back from Anything

Q&A: "Being resilient doesn’t mean we don’t go through difficulties and hardships." Tal Ben-Shahar's five tips on bouncing back.

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July 02, 2015

Divorce Counseling Works Better Than Marriage Therapy

July 02, 2015/ Wendy Paris
Divorce Counseling Works Better Than Marriage Therapy

I found it more productive to seek help with a discrete problem rather than a Total Personality Overhaul of my spouse, or me.

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You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog, Coping & Thriving
June 04, 2015

Get Your Groove Back in Divorce

June 04, 2015/ Wendy Paris
Get Your Groove Back in Divorce

Q&A: Sociologist Christine Carter talks about finding your "sweet spot," even in very sour times. 

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June 04, 2015/ Wendy Paris/
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Self-Serving Post on Dating Younger Men

Uplifting article in The Telegraph about the "trend" of older women and younger men. 

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How to Be More Attractive

While most of us are drawn to looks, attraction is far more complex than it may appear at first sight. The experts, and real people, weigh in.   

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3 Tips for Being a Super Stepfather

Splitopia.com contributors Naomi Cahn and Amy Ziettlow share their research and insights on how to form a great relationship with stepchildren. 

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Should I Stay or Should I Go? 11 Questions to Ask
Should I Stay or Should I Go? 11 Questions to Ask

A recent article in the New York Times poses the question: What should you ask when the love has ended? 

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VIDEO: Principle of Parting #2: Take Ownership (of Your Future and Past)
VIDEO: Principle of Parting #2: Take Ownership (of Your Future and Past)

Taking ownership means embracing your power to create your own future. 

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Should You Throw a Divorce Party?

We have ceremonies and rituals to honor nearly all of life's passages. Increasingly, this includes divorce. 

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Great Reads: Our Top Picks

Check out our top picks for help with self-compassion, hope, parenting in divorce and more. 

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Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance
Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance

Violinist and historical musicology doctoral student Meagan Mason always loved music, but had never really danced to it—until she and her husband of eight years split up about a year ago.

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Splitopian Profile: "It Was Part of My Past, and Will Be in My Future"

Writer Linda Zukauskas realized she could divorce her dance partner, and still keep dancing. 

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Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting
Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting

Coldplay lead singer Chris Martin, a.k.a. Gwyneth's ex, talks about how reading Victor Frankl helped him get through divorce.  

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Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day
Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day

Divorce is an interactive relationship, meaning your actions can improve the attitude and actions of your former spouse. Here's how. 

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Good Divorce Weekend: The No-Spending Spree

Not shopping, from Black Friday deals through Cyber Monday specials, made this holiday weekend special for my family. 

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Financial Stress Led This Divorced Mom to Hire a Money Coach, Then Become One

Struggling to make ends meet? Money therapy may be the answer.  How to know when it's time to seek help.

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Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?
Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?

Is there anything wrong with sex with an ex? It seems innocuous. Not to mention fun. But it's rarely without emotional downsides. 

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Facing a Tough Transition? Create Positive Moments
Facing a Tough Transition? Create Positive Moments

Creating more moments of joy can reawaken parts of yourself or your heritage that may have faded in marriage. 

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Revisiting Vicki Lansky's "Divorce Book for Parents"
Revisiting Vicki Lansky's "Divorce Book for Parents"

Vicky Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents offers a children's Bill of Rights, including the right not be used as a pawn between parents. The author, who was 75, died this week. 

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