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June 14, 2017

Should I Stay or Should I Go? 11 Questions to Ask

June 14, 2017/ Wendy Paris
Should I Stay or Should I Go? 11 Questions to Ask

A recent article in the New York Times poses the question: What should you ask when the love has ended? 

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June 14, 2017/ Wendy Paris/
Wendy's Blog, You & Your Ex, Dating & Sex
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May 12, 2017

Should You Throw a Divorce Party?

May 12, 2017/ Wendy Paris
Should You Throw a Divorce Party?

We have ceremonies and rituals to honor nearly all of life's passages. Increasingly, this includes divorce. 

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May 12, 2017/ Wendy Paris/
Coping & Thriving, You & Your Ex
Divorce Party, Closure, Friends, Front Page Middle
April 26, 2017

Divorce, Millennial Style

April 26, 2017/ Wendy Paris
Divorce, Millennial Style

Read the latest on the Good Divorce in the April issue of Marie Claire. 

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April 26, 2017/ Wendy Paris/
Wendy's Blog, You & Your Ex
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March 02, 2017

What Is Closure, Anyway?

March 02, 2017/ Wendy Paris

New York Magazine's Emily Esfahani Smith talks to Wendy Paris about getting closure after a break-up. 

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March 02, 2017/ Wendy Paris/
Coping & Thriving, You & Your Ex
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March 01, 2017

Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day

March 01, 2017/ Wendy Paris
Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day

Divorce is an interactive relationship, meaning your actions can improve the attitude and actions of your former spouse. Here's how. 

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March 01, 2017/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog, Blending Families, Editor's Picks
Valentine's Day, Holidays
January 25, 2017

Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?

January 25, 2017/ Wendy Paris
Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?

Is there anything wrong with sex with an ex? It seems innocuous. Not to mention fun. But it's rarely without emotional downsides. 

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January 25, 2017/ Wendy Paris/
Dating & Sex, You & Your Ex, Editor's Picks
sex, separation, sex with ex
January 24, 2017

New Divorce Apps Ease Cooperation

January 24, 2017/ Wendy Paris
New Divorce Apps Ease Cooperation

Tech lets you get informed, find professionals, log child support and track details—leading to calm and a sense of control.

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January 24, 2017/ Wendy Paris/
Coping & Thriving, Parenting, Wendy's Blog, You & Your Ex, Legal Advice, Money, Editor's Picks
divorce apps, divorce guidance, wevorce, divorcehotel, technology
January 11, 2017

Alimony for Life: Am I Stuck Supporting Him Forever?

January 11, 2017/ Splitopia Staff
Alimony for Life: Am I Stuck Supporting Him Forever?

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: Alimony or "spousal support," as it's often called today, can go for life, though increasingly it's for a specific period of time. 

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January 11, 2017/ Splitopia Staff/
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December 21, 2016

Principle of Parting #6: Resist the Urge to Compare

December 21, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Principle of Parting #6: Resist the Urge to Compare

It can be hard to avoid negative self-comparison, but you want to remain focused on your own path. 

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December 21, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
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December 14, 2016

Principle of Parting #5: Combat Anger with Empathy

December 14, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Principle of Parting #5: Combat Anger with Empathy

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” --The Buddah

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emotional transitions, self-compassion, healing, forgiveness, Front page middle
December 07, 2016

Why Living Near a Co-Parent Makes Real Estate Sense

December 07, 2016/ Laura Brienza
Why Living Near a Co-Parent Makes Real Estate Sense

As "Jane the Virgin" shows, living close to an ex can ease logistical and emotional complications of co-parenting. 

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December 07, 2016/ Laura Brienza/
House & Home, Parenting, You & Your Ex
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November 23, 2016

CBS-LA Covers DivorceHotel and Splitopia

November 23, 2016/ Wendy Paris
CBS-LA Covers DivorceHotel and Splitopia

CBS LA features DivorceHotel and Wendy's decision to "keep the concept and ditch the destination."

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November 23, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
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September 28, 2016

Unavailable and Unbelievably Hard to Shake

September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Unavailable and Unbelievably Hard to Shake

Q&A: Many of us (all of us?) have experienced the addictive allure of intermittent attention. Manhattan-based psychotherapist Jeanne Safer talks about why we stay, and how to break free. 

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September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
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unrequited love, Jeanne Safer
September 28, 2016

Why a Hollywood Ending Matters in This Divorce

September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Why a Hollywood Ending Matters in This Divorce

How Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie divorce affects them, their kids—and those of us who look toward celebs for inspiration.  Let's hope it's a good divorce. 

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September 19, 2016

How Couples Counseling Improved My Divorce

September 19, 2016/ Linda Zukauskas
How Couples Counseling Improved My Divorce

Couples counseling can be surprisingly helpful after you've split up. Here's a look at the upsides. 

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September 19, 2016/ Linda Zukauskas/
You & Your Ex, Friends Relatives Commu
unsolicited advice, personal essay
August 04, 2016

Divorce Mediation Plants Seeds for Family Success

August 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Divorce Mediation Plants Seeds for Family Success

Q&A:  Colorado attorney/mediator Beth Henson details on the process and perks of mediation over adversarial litigation. Info you need!

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August 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Legal Advice, You & Your Ex
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August 04, 2016

When You Can't Let Go

August 04, 2016/ Jeanne Safer
When You Can't Let Go

BOOK EXCERPT: "Obsessive love is one of the most potent and compelling of tortures and one of the most difficult to overcome." Psychologist Jeanne Safer on love lost and found. 

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August 04, 2016/ Jeanne Safer/
Dating & Sex, You & Your Ex
book excerpt, of human bondage, obsessive love, Jeanne Safer
April 04, 2016

"Excellent Ex-Husband" Is Not an Oxymoron

April 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris
"Excellent Ex-Husband" Is Not an Oxymoron

Being an ex-husband is an important job, and one with such a low bar, it's easy to excel. 

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April 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog
March 04, 2016

Same Partner, Second Wedding

March 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Same Partner, Second Wedding

For some couples, time apart leads to reconciliation.  Journalist Abby Ellin's article in The New York Times about couples who divorced, then remarried. 

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March 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Your New Relationship
remarried, second marriage
January 26, 2016

Getting Along Better After Divorce, Despite Differences

January 26, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Getting Along Better After Divorce, Despite Differences

While adversarial divorce positions marriage and divorce as opposites, collaborative law can make friends of near-enemies. 

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January 26, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog, Legal Advice
functional relationship, getting along, post divorce relationship
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