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June 14, 2017

Should I Stay or Should I Go? 11 Questions to Ask

June 14, 2017/ Wendy Paris
Should I Stay or Should I Go? 11 Questions to Ask

A recent article in the New York Times poses the question: What should you ask when the love has ended? 

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June 14, 2017/ Wendy Paris/
Wendy's Blog, You & Your Ex, Dating & Sex
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January 25, 2017

Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?

January 25, 2017/ Wendy Paris
Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?

Is there anything wrong with sex with an ex? It seems innocuous. Not to mention fun. But it's rarely without emotional downsides. 

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January 25, 2017/ Wendy Paris/
Dating & Sex, You & Your Ex, Editor's Picks
sex, separation, sex with ex
December 14, 2016

Remarriage: 5 Keys to Successful New Love

December 14, 2016/ Phillip Kiehl
Remarriage: 5 Keys to Successful New Love

Marriage and family therapist Phil Kiehl vowed to make his second marriage better than his first. Here are five steps he took to create lasting love.

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December 14, 2016/ Phillip Kiehl/
Your New Relationship, Dating & Sex, Editor's Picks
remarried, divorce success, Front page middle
December 07, 2016

Can Casual Sex Lead to Lasting Love?

December 07, 2016/ Susan Orlins

Dating coach and blogger Francesca Hogi gives her suggestions for sex after divorce, and when it does and doesn't lead to more.

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December 07, 2016/ Susan Orlins/
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November 16, 2016

Learn About Love at the Beach, With Others

November 16, 2016/ Laura Brienza
Learn About Love at the Beach, With Others

Q&A: Marissa Nelson, founder of IntimacyMoons, on why you should consider a therapeutic workshop at a luxury resort. 

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November 16, 2016/ Laura Brienza/
Coping & Thriving, Dating & Sex
Q&A, IntimicayMoons, Front Page Middle
November 09, 2016

Break-Up Sex: A Hot Route to Greater Self-Knowledge (and Fun)

November 09, 2016/ Carmiel Banasky
Break-Up Sex: A Hot Route to Greater Self-Knowledge (and Fun)

"I set out on a personal project to figure out who I was, sexually, and what kind of intimate dynamic I wanted." One writer shares what she learned in and out of the bedroom.

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November 09, 2016/ Carmiel Banasky/
Dating & Sex, Editor's Picks
break-up, sex, sexual identity, confidence, personal essay
November 03, 2016

"Conscious Coupling:" The Secret of Successful Dating After Divorce

November 03, 2016/ Regina A. DeMeo

We've all heard of "conscious uncoupling" by now, but taking a "conscious" approach to dating is key to success. Four tips for getting it right when you get back out there.

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mindfulness
November 02, 2016

Divorced Men Can Make Better Partners

November 02, 2016/ Wendy Newman
Divorced Men Can Make Better Partners

BOOK EXCERPT: "Many of them know how to and are (eventually) willing to commit." Wendy Newman, author of 121 First Dates, shares details from her own dating life. 

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November 02, 2016/ Wendy Newman/
Dating & Sex, Editor's Picks
wendy newman, divorced men
October 26, 2016

3 Reasons Being a (Single) Mom Makes You Hot

October 26, 2016/ Laura Brienza
3 Reasons Being a (Single) Mom Makes You Hot

Telling a date that you have, um . . . children, can feel scary.  But parenting builds valuable (sexy) skills, as TV's The Mindy Project shows. 

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October 26, 2016/ Laura Brienza/
Dating & Sex, Parenting
divorce on TV, Front Page Middle
September 28, 2016

Unavailable and Unbelievably Hard to Shake

September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Unavailable and Unbelievably Hard to Shake

Q&A: Many of us (all of us?) have experienced the addictive allure of intermittent attention. Manhattan-based psychotherapist Jeanne Safer talks about why we stay, and how to break free. 

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September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Dating & Sex, Coping & Thriving, You & Your Ex
unrequited love, Jeanne Safer
September 28, 2016

Dating Again, After a Long Marriage: Awkward. Thrilling?

September 28, 2016/ Rebecca Cullen
Dating Again, After a Long Marriage: Awkward. Thrilling?

PERSONAL ESSAY: "My bedmate was a scrappy 22-pound mutt whose breath smelled like a canning factory.  I told myself he was all I needed. I could not imagine wanting to date."

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September 28, 2016/ Rebecca Cullen/
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personal essay
August 04, 2016

When You Can't Let Go

August 04, 2016/ Jeanne Safer
When You Can't Let Go

BOOK EXCERPT: "Obsessive love is one of the most potent and compelling of tortures and one of the most difficult to overcome." Psychologist Jeanne Safer on love lost and found. 

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August 04, 2016/ Jeanne Safer/
Dating & Sex, You & Your Ex
book excerpt, of human bondage, obsessive love, Jeanne Safer
August 03, 2016

Does Your New Romance Feel Like "Work?" Move On

August 03, 2016/ Blair Glaser
Does Your New Romance Feel Like "Work?" Move On

Why getting it right the second time around may mean NOT doing so much work on your relationship.

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new relationship, romance, relationship is work, emotional transitions, Front Page Middle
March 17, 2016

Is Marriage Old-Fashioned? Obsolete?

March 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Is Marriage Old-Fashioned? Obsolete?

I'm a big fan of marriage, but during my book tour this past Spring, this question came up:  Do we actually need it anymore? 

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March 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Friends Relatives Commu, Wendy's Blog, Dating & Sex
marriage, obsolete, idea of marriage, spitopia, book tour
March 03, 2016

Dating After Divorce: Marie Kondo's Unintentional Advice

March 03, 2016/ Rebecca Cullen
Dating After Divorce: Marie Kondo's Unintentional Advice

PERSONAL ESSAY: "I opened up the dating apps, scrolled through the endless array of faces, and asked myself, 'Does this one spark joy?'  If the answer was no, then . . . next!"

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March 03, 2016/ Rebecca Cullen/
Dating & Sex
the life changing magic of tidying up, dating after 40, hope, online dating
November 19, 2015

3 Steps Toward Peace, In Divorce or Marriage

November 19, 2015/ Wendy Paris
3 Steps Toward Peace, In Divorce or Marriage

From decreasing negative rumination to learning the right lessons from the past, we can continue to improve our relationship with a former spouse, or new one.  

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November 19, 2015/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog, Dating & Sex
get along with your ex
August 06, 2015

Is Tinder a Good Matchmaker?

August 06, 2015/ Wendy Paris
Is Tinder a Good Matchmaker?

Even if you don't find your soul mate, you may find a friend.

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August 06, 2015/ Wendy Paris/
Dating & Sex, Wendy's Blog
finding a match, friends, online dating
July 23, 2015

I Can't Bear the Thought of Dating Yet, Either

July 23, 2015/ Wendy Paris
I Can't Bear the Thought of Dating Yet, Either

Some people love dating after divorce. If you're not up for it, here are three reasons why taking a break can be a great decision. 

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July 23, 2015/ Wendy Paris/
Dating & Sex, Wendy's Blog
not ready to date

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Self-Serving Post on Dating Younger Men
Self-Serving Post on Dating Younger Men

Uplifting article in The Telegraph about the "trend" of older women and younger men. 

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How to Be More Attractive

While most of us are drawn to looks, attraction is far more complex than it may appear at first sight. The experts, and real people, weigh in.   

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3 Tips for Being a Super Stepfather
3 Tips for Being a Super Stepfather

Splitopia.com contributors Naomi Cahn and Amy Ziettlow share their research and insights on how to form a great relationship with stepchildren. 

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Should I Stay or Should I Go? 11 Questions to Ask
Should I Stay or Should I Go? 11 Questions to Ask

A recent article in the New York Times poses the question: What should you ask when the love has ended? 

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VIDEO: Principle of Parting #2: Take Ownership (of Your Future and Past)
VIDEO: Principle of Parting #2: Take Ownership (of Your Future and Past)

Taking ownership means embracing your power to create your own future. 

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Should You Throw a Divorce Party?
Should You Throw a Divorce Party?

We have ceremonies and rituals to honor nearly all of life's passages. Increasingly, this includes divorce. 

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Great Reads: Our Top Picks
Great Reads: Our Top Picks

Check out our top picks for help with self-compassion, hope, parenting in divorce and more. 

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Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance
Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance

Violinist and historical musicology doctoral student Meagan Mason always loved music, but had never really danced to it—until she and her husband of eight years split up about a year ago.

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Splitopian Profile: "It Was Part of My Past, and Will Be in My Future"

Writer Linda Zukauskas realized she could divorce her dance partner, and still keep dancing. 

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Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting
Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting

Coldplay lead singer Chris Martin, a.k.a. Gwyneth's ex, talks about how reading Victor Frankl helped him get through divorce.  

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Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day
Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day

Divorce is an interactive relationship, meaning your actions can improve the attitude and actions of your former spouse. Here's how. 

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Good Divorce Weekend: The No-Spending Spree

Not shopping, from Black Friday deals through Cyber Monday specials, made this holiday weekend special for my family. 

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Financial Stress Led This Divorced Mom to Hire a Money Coach, Then Become One

Struggling to make ends meet? Money therapy may be the answer.  How to know when it's time to seek help.

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Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?
Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?

Is there anything wrong with sex with an ex? It seems innocuous. Not to mention fun. But it's rarely without emotional downsides. 

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Facing a Tough Transition? Create Positive Moments
Facing a Tough Transition? Create Positive Moments

Creating more moments of joy can reawaken parts of yourself or your heritage that may have faded in marriage. 

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Revisiting Vicki Lansky's "Divorce Book for Parents"
Revisiting Vicki Lansky's "Divorce Book for Parents"

Vicky Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents offers a children's Bill of Rights, including the right not be used as a pawn between parents. The author, who was 75, died this week. 

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