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August 04, 2016

One of Us Wants Mediation, the Other Seeks War

August 04, 2016/ Splitopia Staff
One of Us Wants Mediation, the Other Seeks War

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: Mediation is like doing the tango; you can't quite do it alone. Steps to help a resistant spouse be willing to get along. 

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August 04, 2016/ Splitopia Staff/
Legal Advice
legal advice, 1 QUESTION 3 LAWERS, bad divorce, Mediation
August 03, 2016

Does Your New Romance Feel Like "Work?" Move On

August 03, 2016/ Blair Glaser
Does Your New Romance Feel Like "Work?" Move On

Why getting it right the second time around may mean NOT doing so much work on your relationship.

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August 03, 2016/ Blair Glaser/
Dating & Sex
new relationship, romance, relationship is work, emotional transitions, Front Page Middle
July 30, 2016

Do I Need a Lawyer AND a Mediator?

July 30, 2016/ Splitopia Staff
Do I Need a Lawyer AND a Mediator?

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: If your mediator is not a lawyer, hiring one can bring extra confidence—and flag potential problems. 

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July 30, 2016/ Splitopia Staff/
Legal Advice
1 QUESTION 3 LAWERS, Legal Advice, divorce lawyer, Mediation
July 30, 2016

Why Do My friends Think I Need a Shark Lawyer?

July 30, 2016/ Splitopia Staff
Why Do My friends Think I Need a Shark Lawyer?

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: Taking an adversarial, blood-letting approach can bring unnecessary expense and heartache. 

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July 30, 2016/ Splitopia Staff/
Legal Advice
1 QUESTION 3 LAWERS, shark lawyer, friends advice, divorce lawyer
July 27, 2016

Reading for Pleasure and Profit

July 27, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Reading for Pleasure and Profit

In divorce, many of us once again turn to books to get through. Join my conversation about books with Jeffrey Davis. 

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July 27, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
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July 27, 2016

Can I Get Free Legal Advice?

July 27, 2016/ Splitopia Staff
Can I Get Free Legal Advice?

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: Many lawyers will provide general advice on the phone for free. Here's how to ask. 

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July 27, 2016/ Splitopia Staff/
Legal Advice, Money
1 QUESTION 3 LAWERS, free legal advice, divorce lawers
July 20, 2016

Writing Your Way Through Divorce

July 20, 2016/ Nadia Colburn
Writing Your Way Through Divorce

You don't have to be a great poet to use expressive writing to help you move through divorce. It's a tool to help all of us face what we're feeling.

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July 16, 2016

Relocation After Divorce: Moving Out to Move On

July 16, 2016/ Rebecca Cullen
Relocation After Divorce: Moving Out to Move On

PERSONAL ESSAY: "Lying awake in bed later that night, I wondered: was finding the diary a curse or a gift?" 

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June 24, 2016

The Good Divorce, Canadian-Style

June 24, 2016/ Wendy Paris
The Good Divorce, Canadian-Style

I was happy to see this great article today in Canada's largest-circulation national paper, The Globe and Mail, about divorce, up north. 

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June 24, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
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June 17, 2016

Mindfulness in Divorce, and in New York City

June 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Mindfulness in Divorce, and in New York City

How reading The Untethered Soul gave me a new appreciation of the subway, and my life. 

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June 06, 2016

Divorce Overwhelm? There's a Play in That!

June 06, 2016/ Wendy Paris

How one New Jersey-based actor, educator and mother wrote a one-woman play to help her laugh at—and learn from—her marriage's end. 

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June 06, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Coping & Thriving
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May 23, 2016

5 Ways to Love Your Home Again

May 23, 2016/ Wendy Paris
5 Ways to Love Your Home Again

Q&A: "Self and place are uniquely intertwined, and home and self especially." Design psychologist Toby Israel on form and function.  

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May 23, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
House & Home
April 29, 2016

Divorce in Houston: Journalist Makes Copy from Chaos

April 29, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Divorce in Houston: Journalist Makes Copy from Chaos

Kathryn Peterson is the "Carrie Bradshaw of the South," blogging about divorce for the Houston Chronicle's "Grey Matters" column. 

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April 29, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Coping & Thriving, Wendy's Blog
split happens, houston, kathryn peterson
April 04, 2016

"Excellent Ex-Husband" Is Not an Oxymoron

April 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris
"Excellent Ex-Husband" Is Not an Oxymoron

Being an ex-husband is an important job, and one with such a low bar, it's easy to excel. 

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April 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Wendy's Blog
March 30, 2016

Reconnecting with My Past Helps Me Value the Present

March 30, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Reconnecting with My Past Helps Me Value the Present

Reconnecting with places and people from our past can help us remember who we are, and how far we've come.

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March 17, 2016

Is Marriage Old-Fashioned? Obsolete?

March 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Is Marriage Old-Fashioned? Obsolete?

I'm a big fan of marriage, but during my book tour this past Spring, this question came up:  Do we actually need it anymore? 

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March 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
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marriage, obsolete, idea of marriage, spitopia, book tour
March 15, 2016

Friends Help in Divorce

March 15, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Friends Help in Divorce

I had so much help from so many people over the three-plus years of writing the book, was keenly aware of the importance of friends and family in all major life transitions.

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March 15, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Friends Relatives Commu
March 10, 2016

Fighting About Child Support? Yes, You Need SupportPay.Com

March 10, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Fighting About Child Support? Yes, You Need SupportPay.Com

Q&A: Launched in 2013 by Silicon Valley divorced mom Sheri Atwood, SupportPay.com helps parents manage payments—and emotions. 

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March 10, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Parenting, Money
March 04, 2016

Same Partner, Second Wedding

March 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Same Partner, Second Wedding

For some couples, time apart leads to reconciliation.  Journalist Abby Ellin's article in The New York Times about couples who divorced, then remarried. 

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March 04, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
You & Your Ex, Your New Relationship
remarried, second marriage
March 03, 2016

Dating After Divorce: Marie Kondo's Unintentional Advice

March 03, 2016/ Rebecca Cullen
Dating After Divorce: Marie Kondo's Unintentional Advice

PERSONAL ESSAY: "I opened up the dating apps, scrolled through the endless array of faces, and asked myself, 'Does this one spark joy?'  If the answer was no, then . . . next!"

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March 03, 2016/ Rebecca Cullen/
Dating & Sex
the life changing magic of tidying up, dating after 40, hope, online dating
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A recent article in the New York Times poses the question: What should you ask when the love has ended? 

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Check out our top picks for help with self-compassion, hope, parenting in divorce and more. 

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Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance
Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance

Violinist and historical musicology doctoral student Meagan Mason always loved music, but had never really danced to it—until she and her husband of eight years split up about a year ago.

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Writer Linda Zukauskas realized she could divorce her dance partner, and still keep dancing. 

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Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting
Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting

Coldplay lead singer Chris Martin, a.k.a. Gwyneth's ex, talks about how reading Victor Frankl helped him get through divorce.  

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Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day
Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day

Divorce is an interactive relationship, meaning your actions can improve the attitude and actions of your former spouse. Here's how. 

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Good Divorce Weekend: The No-Spending Spree

Not shopping, from Black Friday deals through Cyber Monday specials, made this holiday weekend special for my family. 

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Struggling to make ends meet? Money therapy may be the answer.  How to know when it's time to seek help.

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Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?

Is there anything wrong with sex with an ex? It seems innocuous. Not to mention fun. But it's rarely without emotional downsides. 

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Facing a Tough Transition? Create Positive Moments
Facing a Tough Transition? Create Positive Moments

Creating more moments of joy can reawaken parts of yourself or your heritage that may have faded in marriage. 

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Revisiting Vicki Lansky's "Divorce Book for Parents"
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Vicky Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents offers a children's Bill of Rights, including the right not be used as a pawn between parents. The author, who was 75, died this week. 

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