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October 05, 2016

Protect Those You Love in Divorce, and Remarriage

October 05, 2016/ Naomi Cahn
Protect Those You Love in Divorce, and Remarriage

Want to leave your house to your ex?  Let your new spouse make medical decisions for your kids when you're out of town?  Make sure your legal documents are in order. 

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October 05, 2016/ Naomi Cahn/
Legal Advice, Money, Editor's Picks, Blending Families
October 05, 2016

Talking to Kids About Divorce: What I Learned from Reality TV

October 05, 2016/ Mekeisha Madden Toby
Talking to Kids About Divorce: What I Learned from Reality TV

There Goes the Motherhood offers some genuinely good insight on parenting in divorce. 

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October 05, 2016/ Mekeisha Madden Toby/
Parenting
divorce on TV, telling the kids, Front Page Middle
October 05, 2016

Forget Therapy: 5 Ways Dancing Can Boost Your Mood

October 05, 2016/ Laura Brienza
Forget Therapy: 5 Ways Dancing Can Boost Your Mood

Follow the Bee Gees' advice and find out why you should be dancing, yeah.

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October 05, 2016/ Laura Brienza/
Coping & Thriving
dance, creativity
October 05, 2016

My Divorce "Gift-With-Purchase"—Radical Self-Care

October 05, 2016/ Linda Zukauskas
My Divorce "Gift-With-Purchase"—Radical Self-Care

Divorce can be the first time you're allowed (or forced) to really take care of yourself. How one woman discovered this surprising gift.  

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October 05, 2016/ Linda Zukauskas/
Coping & Thriving, Editor's Picks
self-care, personal essay
September 29, 2016

Eating Well is the Best Revenge

September 29, 2016/ Daliya Karnofsky
Eating Well is the Best Revenge

Cooking at home can be an empowering way to feel "in" your life and regain vitality.  Six easy ways to start, plus recipes.  Hint: Chocolate may be involved.

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September 29, 2016/ Daliya Karnofsky/
House & Home
home alone, Food
September 28, 2016

Unavailable and Unbelievably Hard to Shake

September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Unavailable and Unbelievably Hard to Shake

Q&A: Many of us (all of us?) have experienced the addictive allure of intermittent attention. Manhattan-based psychotherapist Jeanne Safer talks about why we stay, and how to break free. 

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September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Dating & Sex, Coping & Thriving, You & Your Ex
unrequited love, Jeanne Safer
September 28, 2016

Divorce in the Classroom: How to Create a Supportive Space

September 28, 2016/ Mekeisha Madden Toby
Divorce in the Classroom: How to Create a Supportive Space

As parents, we can help teachers and administrators be sensitive to changes in our family, and better support our kids.  Here's what some schools are doing.

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September 28, 2016/ Mekeisha Madden Toby/
Friends Relatives Commu, Parenting
elementary school, education
September 28, 2016

Why a Hollywood Ending Matters in This Divorce

September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Why a Hollywood Ending Matters in This Divorce

How Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie divorce affects them, their kids—and those of us who look toward celebs for inspiration.  Let's hope it's a good divorce. 

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September 28, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Legal Advice, Wendy's Blog, You & Your Ex, Parenting
Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie, celebrity divorce, media, collaborative divorce, adversarial law, Front Page Middle
September 28, 2016

Flexibility, and 3 Other Key Skills for Collaborative Success

September 28, 2016/ Regina A. DeMeo & Mary Atwater
Flexibility, and 3 Other Key Skills for Collaborative Success

Cooperating with your ex can save hundreds of thousands in legal fees, and reduce heartache.  How to get along, even when angry.  

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September 28, 2016/ Regina A. DeMeo & Mary Atwater/
Legal Advice
collaborative divorce, cooperative coparenting, mediation, Front Page Middle
September 28, 2016

Dating Again, After a Long Marriage: Awkward. Thrilling?

September 28, 2016/ Rebecca Cullen
Dating Again, After a Long Marriage: Awkward. Thrilling?

PERSONAL ESSAY: "My bedmate was a scrappy 22-pound mutt whose breath smelled like a canning factory.  I told myself he was all I needed. I could not imagine wanting to date."

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September 28, 2016/ Rebecca Cullen/
Dating & Sex, Editor's Picks
personal essay
September 22, 2016

The Secret To Divorce Success: Retool Your Resilience

September 22, 2016/ Wendy Paris
The Secret To Divorce Success: Retool Your Resilience

Q&A: "Resilient people make conscious choices every day for practices that energize, enliven or strengthen." Maria Sirois on powerful habits.

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September 22, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Coping & Thriving
divorce success, resilience, Q&A
September 22, 2016

Should I Use My Neighbor's Lawyer?

September 22, 2016/ Splitopia Staff
Should I Use My Neighbor's Lawyer?

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: A divorce can go poorly for a variety of reasons. Interview a few lawyers and see who feels right for you.

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September 22, 2016/ Splitopia Staff/
Legal Advice
September 22, 2016

Divorce Finances 101: Educate Yourself

September 22, 2016/ Alysia Patterson Mueller
Divorce Finances 101: Educate Yourself

Yes, you can take charge of your finances, even if you've never done so before. CFP Geoff Burroughs on the empowerment of learning.

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September 22, 2016/ Alysia Patterson Mueller/
Money
financial planning, divorce money, divorce negotiations
September 19, 2016

How Couples Counseling Improved My Divorce

September 19, 2016/ Linda Zukauskas
How Couples Counseling Improved My Divorce

Couples counseling can be surprisingly helpful after you've split up. Here's a look at the upsides. 

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September 19, 2016/ Linda Zukauskas/
You & Your Ex, Friends Relatives Commu
unsolicited advice, personal essay
September 19, 2016

6 Powerful Money Moves for Women

September 19, 2016/ Alysia Patterson Mueller
6 Powerful Money Moves for Women

Don't rush discussions just to get through it, keep custody and cash apart, and four other important steps to financial security and serenity.  

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September 19, 2016/ Alysia Patterson Mueller/
Money
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August 25, 2016

Compassion in Divorce and Greater Good Science Center

August 25, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Compassion in Divorce and Greater Good Science Center

Learn how to "rebuild" yourself after divorce.

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August 25, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
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Greater Good Science Center
August 17, 2016

Foods That Reduce Stress?

August 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Foods That Reduce Stress?

Q&A: Clinical nuritionist Inna Topiler on why caffeine and chocolate do not a good divorce diet make. 

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August 17, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
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August 13, 2016

Hey Clergy! Yes, You Should Help Congregants Through Divorce

August 13, 2016/ Wendy Paris
Hey Clergy! Yes, You Should Help Congregants Through Divorce

Q&A: What role should churches play in helping families through divorce? 

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August 13, 2016/ Wendy Paris/
Friends Relatives Commu
religious divorce, divorce counseling, Q&A, Front Page Middle
August 08, 2016

Can Same-Sex Couple Get Same Support in Divorce?

August 08, 2016/ Splitopia Staff
Can Same-Sex Couple Get Same Support in Divorce?

We've been together for 20 years, and didn't marry because we couldn't.  Does our longterm commitment affect custody or property, in divorce? 

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August 08, 2016/ Splitopia Staff/
August 08, 2016

Are Divorce Laws the Same for Gay Couples?

August 08, 2016/ Splitopia Staff
Are Divorce Laws the Same for Gay Couples?

1 QUESTION, 3 LAWYERS: Many LGBT couples clip together other laws to cover details of a relationship begun before marriage was legal.

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August 08, 2016/ Splitopia Staff/
Legal Advice
Same-Sex Divorce, gay divorce, Legal Advice, 1 QUESTION 3 LAWERS
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Check out our top picks for help with self-compassion, hope, parenting in divorce and more. 

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Splitopian Profile: Dancing Her Way to Serenity and Romance
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Violinist and historical musicology doctoral student Meagan Mason always loved music, but had never really danced to it—until she and her husband of eight years split up about a year ago.

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Writer Linda Zukauskas realized she could divorce her dance partner, and still keep dancing. 

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Celebs Split Well, and Focus on Co-Parenting
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Coldplay lead singer Chris Martin, a.k.a. Gwyneth's ex, talks about how reading Victor Frankl helped him get through divorce.  

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Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day
Why I Got My Ex a Hammock for Valentine's Day

Divorce is an interactive relationship, meaning your actions can improve the attitude and actions of your former spouse. Here's how. 

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Good Divorce Weekend: The No-Spending Spree

Not shopping, from Black Friday deals through Cyber Monday specials, made this holiday weekend special for my family. 

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Struggling to make ends meet? Money therapy may be the answer.  How to know when it's time to seek help.

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Should You Have Sex ... With Your Ex?

Is there anything wrong with sex with an ex? It seems innocuous. Not to mention fun. But it's rarely without emotional downsides. 

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Creating more moments of joy can reawaken parts of yourself or your heritage that may have faded in marriage. 

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Vicky Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents offers a children's Bill of Rights, including the right not be used as a pawn between parents. The author, who was 75, died this week. 

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